I, as well as others, fell pretty strongly that this was selfish on so many levels on the part of the mother. But Neil at Citizen of the Month wants to know why it is selfish when no one says anything if a 70 year old man fathers a child.
Double Standard? Yes.
But there are so many realities in place here:
- women are often the primary caregivers for young children (except in my house and a rare few others)
- At 67 it is unrealistic to think that this woman will be a part of her children's lives as long as say, if she were 37.
And having been through the whole IVF thing personally, I want to know what doctor in their right mind agreed to this? Apparently she had it done somewhere in Latin America but REALLY... this doctor needs to have his or her license revoked.
Is there no code of ethics? Did no one think this might not be such a good idea?
But was it her right to do.... grudgingly, I have to say yes.
Others are commenting that she had the right to do whatever she wants with her body and while there are few people who are more Pro-Choice than me... I have to disagree here. She did not do this on her own. They were someone else's eggs (because, let's be realistic here...she is 67!!) And there was a fairly large team of experts making it all happen.
Being pregant with and caring for newborn twins zaps the stuffing out of even the most motivated of mothers...and no one is more motivated that someone who's been through many years of infertility (like me) AND YET... I still can't wrap my brain around setting out on that journey at 67.
What was she thinking??
There are no good answers.
